GentleBirth When Things Don't Go As Planned

One of the things I love about being a GentleBirth Instructor is how GentleBirth can help Mums, when interventions occur that might otherwise have been very stressful. As this story below shows, even with a birth when things go differently to expected the tools learned in a GentleBirth workshop can help a Mum and her partner to stay calm. 

"My little boy was born 25th June. Unfortunately everything that could go wrong, went wrong during the birth and I didn't get the birth I imagined but I was so glad for the GentleBirth course, because I remained very calm during the whole birth. Even my husband was surprised how calm I was.

I couldn't labour at home at all as my waters broke a little bit on 23rd during night (on my actual due date). I wasn't sure if those were waters, so we decided to stay at home and sleep but the next morning I rang the hospital and they advised to come in. Once I was there they confirmed it was waters and gave me time till 11pm of the 24th June to wait until I would start labour on my own but I couldn't go home.

Unfortunately nothing happened and my blood pressure was going up, so they advised an induction to keep the baby safe which I got around 1am on the 24th. Around 6am all of my waters completely went . Then I had a small moment of panic because I didn't realised that there can be so much of those waters - but I quickly pulled myself together by listening to meditation and focusing on breathing when trying to clean myself up in the shower.

Then surges started coming very strong and very quick. I had only 15-20 seconds break between them and they lasted around 1.5 minutes even though I was only 2cm. I was in a lot of back pain as baby was facing up and had no waters to turn and having lower back injury in the past made the back pain unbearable, so eventually I asked for an epidural. I was a bit disappointed that I had to take it but after the birth was over I'm really glad I took it as I know I couldn't do without it. Eventually it took 10 hours to go from 2 to 10cm and after over one hour of passive descent nothing was happening and my blood pressure was going up, so I agreed on coached pushing.

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Baby was stuck and after 2 hours of pushing not much has happened either, so the consultant came in to the room and suggested vaccum. Unfortunately that didn't help either and my options were forceps with episiotomy or a c-section, so I opted for the forceps and baby Ryan was born just before 7pm on the 25th June.

We had delayed cord clamping and immediate skin to skin like I asked for it on my birth plan but because of the hard delivery I couldn't breastfeed him straight away before paediatricians checked him up. He turned up to be a very healthy boy."

I was so glad for the GentleBirth course, because I remained very calm during the whole birth. Even my husband was surprised how calm I was.